If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance that you just received terrifying news — a recommended biopsy came back positive. You are not alone: 1 in 8 women will hear these words in their lifetime. It’s a big (and crappy) club, and this may be the hardest part of the journey. You’re reeling from the diagnosis and don’t know what happens next.
Very soon, you may be placed on a fast-moving train of diagnostic tests — possibly MRI, MRI-guided biopsy, bone scan, PET scan, and more. Don’t go through this alone. Moderated communities can help you process the emotions and the logistics in real time.
First Week: What You Can Do Today
In shock, it’s easy to miss details. A simple plan can anchor you while things move quickly.
- Tell one trusted person — you don’t have to carry this alone.
- Start a notebook or notes app to track tests, questions, and results.
- Ask your care team what the next tests are and the timeline.
- Request copies of pathology reports and imaging.
- Schedule a consult with a breast specialist or second opinion if you want one.
- Join a moderated support group (links below).
- Protect the basics: hydration, short daily walks, and sleep.
What Happens Next? A Typical Diagnostic Pathway
Every case is unique, but many people follow a path like this. Use it to frame questions for your team.
Ask your team: What is my stage? ER/PR/HER2 receptor status? What’s the next step and timeline?
You Are Not Alone: Moderated Support Communities
Two excellent, moderated communities where people farther along the road can help:
- Breastcancer.org Community — highly moderated forums with practical guidance and empathy.
- Reddit r/breastcancer — active subreddit with shared experiences and tips.
This moment is heavy, but you are not powerless. Build your support, gather information, and take one step at a time. There is a community ready to walk beside you — today and through every phase to come.